Adelia Wieland

You might be the one everyone counts on. You say “I’m fine,” check with three people before making a decision, and would rather do almost anything than ask for help. Underneath, you’re not sure what you feel or need.

A lot of my clients grew up with parents who were there, but not really there. Nothing obviously bad happened, so it’s easy to miss. But you learned early that your feelings and needs made things harder, so you set them aside. I’m a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with 16 years of experience, trained in attachment-focused EMDR, and I specialize in helping adults heal from childhood emotional neglect and complex trauma.

You don’t have to cut off your family or relive every memory to feel better. We’ll go at a pace that feels safe, and you don’t need to have it all figured out to start.

Therapy with me isn’t just talking about what happened. It’s understanding why you are the way you are, and then actually feeling different. I’m part teacher, part coach: I’ll explain how your brain and nervous system learned to put yourself last, not because something is wrong with you, but because it’s how you got through. Then we practice doing it differently in real life.

Together we work on knowing what you feel and need, taking it seriously, and sharing it with the people in your life without feeling like a burden. I use attachment-focused EMDR, inner child work, and polyvagal-informed care to help old beliefs like “I’m too much” lose their grip. Over time, you start to hear your gut and trust it, stop settling, get okay with disappointing people, and break the cycle.

The first session is about getting to know you: your story, your patterns, and what’s been feeling hard lately. There’s no pressure to share everything at once. We go at your pace.

You can expect me to listen closely, ask thoughtful questions, and be honest about what I’m noticing. By the end, you’ll have a sense of what’s been driving the patterns you feel stuck in and what our work together could look like. You don’t have to have it all figured out to start. Most people don’t