Alan Romano

You may be tired of carrying something that other people can’t see, whether it’s grief that still catches you off guard, a painful past that affects who you trust, or anxiety and depression that make you feel disconnected from yourself. Perhaps relationships keep ending in the same painful patterns, alcohol or substances have become your way of escaping, or you’re struggling with food, identity, cultural expectations, or intense shifts in your mood. For more than a decade, I’ve helped people understand what’s underneath these struggles instead of judging themselves for having them. My goal is to help you make sense of what you’ve been through, reconnect with who you are, and build a life that isn’t controlled by your past.

We’ll look beyond what you’re feeling today to understand why certain situations, relationships, or memories affect you as strongly as they do. That might mean understanding why you pull away when someone gets close, working through beliefs you developed after trauma, changing the story you tell yourself about a painful loss, or recognizing what alcohol, substances, or food may be helping you avoid. We’ll work on practical ways to manage anxiety, depression, and overwhelming emotions while also exploring how your past, relationships, culture, and sense of identity have shaped you. The goal isn’t to erase difficult parts of your story, but to help them have less control over the person you are becoming.

You don’t need to walk into our first conversation prepared to tell your entire life story or explain exactly what’s wrong. We’ll start with what has been weighing on you lately, whether you’re grieving someone, struggling in a relationship, feeling anxious or depressed, questioning who you are, relying on substances to cope, or noticing that something from your past still follows you into the present. I’ll ask questions to understand not only what’s happening, but what you’ve lived through and what you genuinely want your life and relationships to feel like instead. By the end, we’ll have a clearer sense of what’s keeping you stuck and where we can begin.