Deanne Schulz-Perry

If you can't stop thinking about someone — maybe an ex, an affair partner, an unavailable person, or someone who betrayed you — I can help.

This kind of fixation, sometimes called limerence or romantic obsession, can become all-consuming. You may replay the same thoughts or conversations over and over, check their social media, or find yourself constantly wondering what they're doing, thinking, or feeling. Over time, it can interfere with your focus, your relationships, and your ability to feel fully present in your own life.

But it doesn't have to stay that way.

Before becoming a therapist, I spent more than a decade teaching communication at the university level and leading workshops for organizations across the U.S. I have two master's degrees — one in Communication and one in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. I've worked with clients caught in this kind of psychological hold, and I bring both my communication and clinical backgrounds to helping people understand what's keeping them stuck and begin to move forward.

Therapy with me is about understanding why this particular person has such a hold on you — and what keeps pulling your attention back to them.

My approach is experiential and rooted in Coherence Therapy. That means we don't just talk about the same thoughts each week. We look underneath them, exploring the emotional patterns and meanings that may be keeping the fixation so persistent.

The goal is to loosen that hold so the person takes up less space in your mind — and you can put your attention back into yourself, your relationships, and the life you want to be living.

Our first session is really a conversation about you — what's been happening, what you've been experiencing, and how it's affecting your life.

I'll spend time getting to know you and understanding what this experience has been like for you, rather than formally working through a checklist. By the end of the session, my hope is that you feel understood and that we have a clearer sense of what's keeping you stuck and where we can begin.