Isabella Alonzo-Gatti

I’m Isabella, a licensed marriage and family therapist who helps couples rebuild trust and connection when closeness fades, conflict escalates, or trust has been broken. I help partners slow things down, understand what’s happening beneath the surface, and create space for meaningful repair.

I specialize in high-conflict dynamics, emotional disconnection, infidelity and betrayal, and attachment injuries. My work is informed by over two decades of mental health experience, beginning as a counseling psychologist in the Philippines, where I built a play therapy practice and worked across hospital, government, and private group settings. After returning to clinical practice in the U.S., I trained in community-based care before completing advanced licensure and specializing in relational and trauma-informed couples therapy.

I integrate Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the Gottman Method, Relational Life Therapy (RLT-informed), and trauma-informed approaches including EMDR (Attachment-Focused EMDR) and Internal Family Systems (IFS).

When trust is shaken or conflict becomes chronic, nervous systems stay on high alert. Repair isn’t just about insight — it’s about restoring safety in the room, moment by moment.

My style is warm, direct, and collaborative. I help couples hear what’s underneath the noise, take responsibility without shame, and shift out of reactive cycles that keep them stuck. I use EFT for emotional attunement, the Gottman Method for structure, RLT for honesty and accountability, and EMDR/IFS when trauma, attachment wounds, or nervous system dysregulation are shaping how partners relate.

The goal is not perfection, but safer connection — so closeness can be rebuilt rather than defended against.

In our first session, we’ll slow things down and start mapping the patterns that keep you stuck. You’ll both have space to share what’s been happening and what you’re longing for beneath the conflict. I’ll help you understand the emotional cycle between you—what triggers disconnection, what protects you, and what helps you reach for each other again. You can expect clarity, warmth, and honesty—not quick fixes, but the beginning of real repair.