Jay Hafen

I help individuals and couples break the negative thought patterns that drive anxiety, conflict, and self-doubt. Many struggles are sustained by rigid beliefs about worth, trust, and failure. Together, we identify those patterns, challenge them, and build healthier, more flexible ways of thinking. In couples therapy, I help partners interrupt reactive cycles, take accountability, and rebuild connection through clear, values-based communication. I provide affirming therapy for LGBTQ+ clients. I focus on anxiety, depression, LGBTQ+ issues, couples counseling (including divorce mediation), and faith transitions. You matter!

I use CBT primarily to deal with depression and anxiety with most clients, challenging the automatic thoughts and behaviors that are driving these conditions. With couples, I am certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy, helping the couples attach securely to one another

Our first visit will be one of discovery. I will press to get to know you personally along with the problems you are facing. I also encourage you to get to know me! Most therapy comes from the relationship between the client and therapist, so I want you to be sure that I am the right therapist for you!