I'm Dr. Julia Catlin, and I'm glad you're here. Most of my clients come to me stuck in a painful pattern: You fear rejection so deeply that you either cling to relationships or push people away. You struggle to trust that your partner actually cares. You react intensely to perceived slights. Or you keep finding yourself in the same conflicted dynamics, even though you swore you wouldn't. You've tried managing these feelings. But nothing really shifts.
Here's what I know from my doctoral research and 12+ years working with attachment patterns: These cycles make sense. They developed in your early relationships. When caregiving was inconsistent, rejecting, or dismissive, your nervous system learned to expect rejection and protect itself. And now, those patterns run your relationships. I specialize in helping you understand why these patterns exist and how to genuinely transform them. Not through homework or coping skills, but through developing what research calls reflective functioning. The ability to understand your own mental state and your partner's, separate from your rejection fears, is what breaks the cycle. When you can see yourself and others clearly, everything changes.
I work with individuals, couples, and families using attachment-informed therapy grounded in psychoanalytic and somatic approaches. I'm trained in trauma-focused work, Circle of Security, and mentalization-based interventions. I'm sex-positive, affirming of all identities and relationship structures, and I specialize in helping people heal attachment wounds and build relationships that feel genuinely secure. Ready to understand your patterns? Let's start there.
