Dr. Kristy Wolanski

Fair warning: I'm not the therapist who nods, asks how that made you feel, and lets you circle the same argument for six months.

Now welcoming couples. If you still love each other but have become very efficient roommates, I'll help you see the dance you keep repeating. Then I'll ask you to change your steps, out loud, in real time, with your partner watching.

I also work with individuals who look like they have it all together and are quietly exhausted by the same patterns showing up in every relationship, job and decision.

I hold a doctorate in psychology, I'm a Licensed Professional Counselor in Pennsylvania, and I've spent more than 20 years in psychology and psychiatric research spotting patterns in data and behavior. I bring that pattern eye into the room.

I will challenge you. Growth needs a little pressure, and I apply it in a space safe enough for you to push back, get it wrong and try again. You'll get warmth, honesty and the occasional laugh, sometimes in the same sentence.

Common starting points: disconnection, the same fight on repeat, broken trust, people-pleasing and big life transitions. Couples and individual sessions are virtual for clients in Pennsylvania, and self-pay is available.

Insight is nice. Change is the point.

With couples, I map the cycle you fall into together: one of you pushes, the other retreats, and you both walk away lonely. Then we interrupt it. I'll slow you down mid-argument, ask the question you've both been avoiding, and coach you through saying what you actually need. It can get uncomfortable. That's usually where the good stuff is.

With individuals, I'll connect the dots across your relationships and choices, point out the pattern you'd rather not look at, and help you build a different response you can actually use on an ordinary Tuesday.

I draw from CBT, behavioral science, and relational and trauma-informed approaches. The structure keeps the room safe. The challenge keeps you moving.

Come as you are. No homework, no perfect words required.

Couples: we'll talk about what brought you in and what each of you wants to be different. Early on I'll meet briefly with each of you on your own, so I hear both versions of the story. I don't pick sides. I pick the relationship.

Individuals: we'll look at what's going on, what you've already noticed, and where you keep getting stuck.

Either way, expect me to be engaged and curious, and to ask a few questions you didn't see coming. Within the first session or two, you'll have a clear picture of the pattern running the show and a plan to change it.

If you want someone who will listen hard, tell you the truth, and keep the room safe enough for you to grow, we'll get along just fine.