Lyl Starr

I work with people who are deeply curious about how their past experiences and relationships shape who they are today. I help those ready to unburden aches and pains, even ones they can't quite name yet, and those exploring their identity, gender, or relationship structures. My practice is BIPOC, LGBTQIA+, and poly/kink affirming, and I offer Brainspotting, EMDR, and IFS-informed therapy, along with KAP integration and prep sessions for clients already working with another provider. I'm neurodivergent, a child of immigrants who fled the Salvadoran civil war, and I bring lived experience with interracial and intercultural relationships, traumatic birth, being a trauma survivor, queer, and growing up in a high-control religious environment. I actively engage in my own healing practices so I can keep showing up fully for my loved ones and the people I serve.

I believe therapy should be collaborative. I bring the knowledge from my education and training, and you bring your stories, your bravery, and your wisdom. My hope is to build a space where your most authentic self, the version of you that's true and whole, even if we haven't fully found that version yet. I want the people I work with to leave feeling unapologetically themselves.

Our first session is about getting to know you and figuring out together what actually works for you, not following a script. I'll ask about what's going on and what you're hoping to move toward, but just as much, I want you to get a feel for me. I'm trauma-informed and consent-centered, so you'll always have a voice in how we work and we'll adjust anything that doesn't feel right. You can also expect me to show up as myself, including my dark sense of humor and a face that tends to say what I'm thinking before I do. Most people I work with already have a good sense of what isn't working. My job from session one is to start helping you move beyond that insight into real, embodied change.