Shobana Murugiah

If you’re looking for therapy that goes beyond quick fixes and helps you understand yourself at a deeper level, you’ll likely feel at home here.

Hi! I’m Shobana, a licensed therapist, latte drinker, avid reader and someone who appreciates slowing down and noticing what others might miss. I offer virtual therapy for adults and couples across Washington, Colorado, and Wyoming.

I’m a depth-oriented, relational therapist who helps high-functioning individuals and couples understand and shift the patterns beneath the surface.

I specialize in working with people who are used to holding it together on the outside but feel overwhelmed, stuck, or weighed down underneath. Many of my clients are thoughtful, empathetic, and self-aware, yet find themselves repeating the same patterns in their relationships, struggling with self-doubt, or feeling disconnected from themselves and unsure how to trust their own instincts.

My work often focuses on trauma, people-pleasing, self-worth, identity, and relationship patterns. I primarily work with high functioning women navigating the pressure to be everything for everyone, as well as supporting BIPOC clients and those from immigrant backgrounds, where cultural context and lived experience shape how they move through the world. I also work with individuals exploring or newly diagnosed with ADHD, as well as couples who want to move beyond surface-level communication and understand the deeper dynamics in their relationship.

This is the kind of work we’ll do together: Understanding the root, not just managing the surface.

My approach to therapy is rooted in a simple belief: you’re not broken, and you don’t need to be “fixed.” This is a space where you’re seen as a whole person, not a problem to solve.

I believe you already hold insight into your experiences, even if it feels hard to access right now. Our work will be collaborative and inclusive. You bring your lived experience and I help you make sense of the patterns, emotions, and layers underneath it so you can begin trusting your own inner wisdom more fully.

I draw from attachment-based, emotion-focused, trauma-informed, and somatic approaches, while also holding a feminist, culturally attuned, and anti-oppressive lens. Much of my work centers women who are used to holding it all together while navigating identity, expectations, and relationships, often alongside the invisible pressure to be everything for everyone. In my work with men, I focus on those who want to better understand themselves, take accountability, and show up more intentionally in their day-to-day lives.

I also work with individuals exploring ADHD, helping them better understand how their mind works with more clarity and self-compassion.

With couples, I work with partners who find themselves in cyclical conflicts, navigating life transitions, or trying to build a more intentional and connected way of relating. We move beyond surface-level communication and focus on the deeper dynamics shaping the relationship.

You have a say in how this process unfolds. We move at your pace, and nothing is forced. I’m here to offer perspective, guidance, and support as we figure things out together.

We don’t rush or stay on the surface. We slow things down, understand the root and build practical ways for you to feel more steady, clear, and connected.

The first session is really just a starting point. I tend to be warm, thoughtful, and (gently) direct when it’s helpful. Mostly, I’m paying attention to you, how things feel, what’s underneath and what might actually support you.

We’ll spend some time getting a sense of what’s been going on for you and what brought you here. And yes, we’ll also get through the intake questions (I promise it won’t feel like an interrogation).

You don’t have to share everything right away or have it all figured out. You get to take your time and you don’t owe me your trust from the start because that is something we build together.

It’s also a chance for you to get a feel for me. Therapy is a relationship, and it matters that it feels right on your end too. From there, we’ll start to get a sense of what you’re needing and what this work could look like, without rushing it.