I help couples use their love relationships to develop and maintain emotional safety and intimacy while working on their relationship issues. I help couples gain understanding of their relationship agendas stemming from unhealed childhood emotional wounds. Couples design caring behaviors (words, gestures, timing) for emotional healing. In counseling, I help couples to talk to each other one-at-a-time, many report feeling heard for the first time in their lives.
Couples sometimes experience infidelity and betrayal. This situation requires careful, deliberate work: (1) to uncover and identify unmet needs in the betrayer; (2) to design repetitive trust-building behaviors designed by the one betrayed. Emotionally safe transactions lead couples toward greater fulfillment, trust and friendship. Healing requires deliberate caring behavior from both partners.
An area of expertise is adult children of alcoholic parents and grandparents. I also provide premarital counseling.
