Tobi Brenner

I’m Tobi. Licensed therapist, recovering corporate overachiever, and founder of EmpowHer Counseling.

Let me guess. You’re the one everyone counts on. You remember the birthdays, fix the problems, carry the team, and still find time to wonder if you’re doing enough. On paper, you’re thriving. In real life, you’re running on fumes and quietly resentful that nobody seems to notice how much you’re holding.

That’s who I love working with: smart, capable women who have gotten really, really good at taking care of everyone except themselves.

I get it, and not just from a textbook. I spent more than 20 years in IT consulting, business operations, and HR before becoming a therapist. I’ve lived the deadlines, the caregiving, the life transitions, the grief, and the slow realization that self-sacrifice and self-worth are not the same thing.

In therapy with me, we’ll work on the anxiety, perfectionism, and people-pleasing that keep you on the hamster wheel. You’ll learn to set boundaries without a three-day guilt spiral, turn down the volume on your inner critic, and figure out what you actually want when nobody else gets a vote.

I also provide sex therapy, for things like mismatched desire, intimacy that feels more like pressure than connection, and old messages about sex and your body that you’re ready to put down.

Putting yourself first isn’t selfish. It’s required. Let’s get started.

Warm, direct, and real, with a side of humor and the occasional swear word (only if that’s your vibe, too).

This is the place where you get to stop saying “I’m fine.” You don’t have to perform here, be impressive, or have it all figured out. Honestly, the messier version of you is the one I want to meet.

I don’t believe in one-size-fits-all therapy. I draw from humanistic, feminist, person centered, mindfulness, strengths-based work, trauma-informed care, and relational approaches, and I pick the tools that fit you, not the other way around. In plain English: we’ll figure out the patterns and beliefs keeping you stuck, where they came from, and what to do about them, then build practical skills you can actually use on a Tuesday afternoon.

I’ll support you, cheer you on, and lovingly call you out when you apologize for having needs. The goal isn’t to turn you into someone new. It’s to help you find your way back to the woman under all that responsibility.

Starting therapy can feel weird, especially if you’re used to being the one with the answers. Good news: you don’t need the right words, a tidy story, or a plan before our first session. Showing up is enough.

Here’s how it works. You’ll fill out some intake paperwork ahead of time, so our session is about you and not forms. In our first meeting, we’ll talk about what’s going on, what feels heaviest right now, and what you’d like to be different. We won’t march through your whole life story on day one. We’ll start with where you are and where you want to go.

Expect a real conversation, not an interrogation. I’m engaged, curious, and invested in helping you connect the dots and make changes that stick.

All sessions are virtual, so you can join from your couch, your home office, or your parked car on a lunch break.

Not sure if we’re a fit? I offer a free 15-30 minute consultation call first. Finding the right therapist matters, and you deserve someone you actually click with.