I specialize in working with people who have Borderline Personality Disorder. It’s primarily the one disorder nearly no therapists touch. These are clients who have terrible traumatic backgrounds, including any kind of physical/sexual/emotional abuse. Their parents never validated any of their emotions. They grew up to not even trust how they are feeling. They become emotionally extreme on every aspect because it’s the only way they trust what they are feeling.
If they are mad they are fighting and yelling. If they are sad they are self harming and thinking about suicide. If they are nervous they are having a panic attack. Everything is extreme. They doubt who they are, they doubt how they feel, and they take over that invalidating habit their parents raised them on and start invalidating themselves the same way.
They believe their friends will eventually find out who they really are and will start talking shit about them – so they always seem paranoid. They self-sabotage anytime something starts going well because they don’t like challenging the idea that “I’m not good enough”.
