Adrian Tiller

NARCISSISTIC ABUSE - Everybody knows at least one narcissist, and we all know about gaslighting. But what if the narcissist is your parent—or parents?

Parents with narcissistic behavior fall somewhere on a continuum, ranging from a few traits to full-blown Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Some are healthier, more functional, and less destructive than others.

A narcissistic parent is one who puts his or her needs first, can’t recognize the feelings of others, and expects understanding and admiration but is unable to give them. They can’t hear feedback or handle confrontation and are often critical and controlling. They almost always have a grandiose sense of entitlement.

Loss is the central dynamic in growing up with a narcissistic parent. Loss of unconditional love and acceptance. And loss of being seen and supported as a separate individual, who is unique and special.

Problems in adulthood range from difficulty making decisions, low self-esteem, attracting unhealthy partners, to an underdeveloped sense of self.

My specialty is working with adults who had one (or more) self-absorbed or narcissistic parents. If this description resonates with you, please get in touch for a free consultation.

Therapy is a way to find answers, resolve conflicts, and chart a new course. Learn how to increase awareness of your feelings and needs through mindfulness. Learn how to set boundaries (saying "no"), clarify goals, resolve the past, and move forward.

I do more than just listen and say, “Um huh,” or “How does that make you feel?” My approach is pragmatic and straightforward. We work together to set goals and stay on task. I offer conversation that includes suggestions and feedback. I also have a good sense of humor, which helps keep therapy manageable and hopeful. I do my best work with adults--individuals.