Family therapy and counseling in Hawaii

My communication style is nonjudgmental, authentic, and grounded in honesty, empathy, and respect. I believe that meaningful therapeutic work happens when clients feel safe enough to be themselves and know they will be met with understanding rather than criticism. My goal is to create a space where you can openly explore your thoughts, emotions, and experiences while feeling genuinely supported throughout the process.

I take a holistic approach to therapy and believe it is important to understand the whole person, not just the challenges that bring them to treatment. Together, we may explore areas such as work-life balance, childhood experiences, relationships, physical health and well-being, cultural influences, personal values, and future goals. By considering the many factors that shape your life, we can develop a deeper understanding of your experiences and create a path toward meaningful, lasting growth.

I strive to balance compassion with honesty, offering both support and thoughtful feedback when appropriate. My goal is to help you gain insight, strengthen self-awareness, and make choices that align with the life you want to create.

Welcome. Thank you for taking the first step toward wholeness. I am a licensed marriage and family therapist who focuses on systemic and relational healing. This includes journeying with my clients through ancestral, childhood, and adulthood life challenges to help them access and address pain.

As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I work with the whole system -- the relationships -- both INTRApersonal and INTERpersonal relationships. I support individuals with their own internal landscape as well as their way of connecting and relating with others. I was trained as a Deaf Educator and can support people with various learning styles and needs. I also work with mindfulness, yoga, breathwork, and Reiki to bring in a holistic approach to mental health.

If you've been holding a lot for a long time, therapy can be a place where you finally exhale. I work with women and teens who are feeling overwhelmed, stuck, anxious, or simply not like themselves. Whether you're navigating stress, relationship struggles, life transitions, or that constant sense of emotional overload, our work together can help you feel more grounded, supported, and clear about what comes next. Clients often describe me as compassionate, calming, and easy to talk to.

I am a licensed psychologist, educator, and researcher dedicated to helping individuals navigate life's challenges while building a stronger connection to themselves and their values. My professional background includes working in healthcare, higher education, community mental health, and veteran settings, giving me experience supporting clients from diverse cultural, racial, gender, and sexual identity backgrounds.

I specialize in working with anxiety, depression, trauma, life transitions, relationship concerns, identity exploration, and issues affecting LGBTQIA+ individuals. My research and clinical work have focused on understanding how culture, identity, and lived experiences shape mental health and well-being.

I believe therapy should be a space where you feel seen, respected, and empowered. Whether you're navigating a difficult transition, healing from past experiences, exploring your identity, or seeking greater fulfillment in your relationships and daily life, I strive to provide a supportive environment where meaningful growth can occur.

As someone who has gone through years of therapy myself, I am very passionate about working with you for your highest good. With a background in meditation, conflict mediation, somatic work, spirituality and psychology, I have a solid toolkit that is at your service. My undergrad degree from Berkeley is in Media Studies, so we will also explore how media shapes us and the current culture we live in.

I work with all different ages, ethnic/racial backgrounds, social groups, nationalities and orientations!

As a board certified psychotherapist, I believe prioritizing mental health is key to happiness and stability in life. Seeking help can be one of the hardest parts, so congratulations on taking that step! I’ve been practicing for 10 years, I work with a plethora of inter-generational clients aged 21-90 who are struggling with anxiety and depression and trauma.

As a chaplain, I take a psycho-spiritual approach and work with clients assisting with intercultural issues, blended family dynamics, religiosity challenges and grief & loss.

Are you feeling anxious, stressed, or just need someone to talk to? You've come to the right place. Throughout our lifetime, we are faced with many challenges, barriers, and successes that can all have their own level of overwhelmingness and joy. Whatever you are going through, let's work through it together.

Client-focused, not one-size fits all. It's all about relationships. I'm here to listen and perhaps gently guide. I use psychodynamic, cognitive behavioral and Gottman technique with couples.

I am open, approachable, and committed to listening carefully to your experiences without judgment. I believe that each person carries a unique story, and my goal is to provide a supportive space where you feel heard, understood, and encouraged as you navigate life’s challenges and opportunities for growth. Together, we can explore what is most important to you and work toward creating a life that feels meaningful, authentic, and aligned with your values.

My background includes earning a Ph.D. from the University of California, Berkeley, along with a lifelong appreciation for personal growth, nature, and the healing power of connection. Growing up learning to surf fostered a deep respect for the ocean and the lessons it offers about resilience, balance, and adapting to life's changing conditions. These experiences have shaped my belief in the importance of honoring each individual’s journey and recognizing that growth often comes through both challenge and reflection.

I have over 30 years of clinical, counseling and administrative experience working with individuals and couples, addressing the unique issues related to their unique life experiences. I have extensive professional and personal experience with military families and veterans. I understand first-hand the struggles of grief and medical conditions that impact all aspects of life. I have supported chronically and terminally ill patients, individuals living with cancer or chronic medical diagnoses, as well as parents experiencing infertility, peripartum, and postpartum depression. Whether dealing with life transitions, parenting, depression, anxiety, or divorce, or simply seeking to express yourself and feel more confident, I am here to walk with you, provide insights, and support you toward lasting change.

Life's challenges—whether anxiety, trauma, relationship struggles, or questions of meaning and identity—can feel overwhelming, but you don't have to navigate them alone.

Whether you're facing a specific challenge or seeking deeper personal understanding, I'm here to walk alongside you with warmth, respect, compassion honesty and hope.

You deserve support that honors your whole self—your story, your values, and your potential. Ready to take the first step? I invite you to reach out and begin your journey toward greater well-being and authenticity.

As a licensed counselor with a PhD in Counseling and Counselor Supervision, I bring both over 25 years’ experience, expertise and genuine compassion to my work with adults, couples, families, and older adults.

I have published and presented locally, regionally, nationally and internationally on various counseling areas and since I also teach I am current on research in the field of mental health counseling.

I specialize in supporting individuals through anxiety, depression, trauma, adjustment disorders, relationship concerns, existential questions, and the unique experiences of LGBTQ+ individuals and those exploring alternative lifestyles of any Kind.

Dr. Joe McSpillman

I am a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who works with individuals, couples, and LGBTQ+ clients seeking deeper self-understanding, emotional healing, and more connected relationships. My approach is warm, relational, trauma-informed, and grounded in the belief that healing happens through safety, honesty, and meaningful connection.

I specialize in relationship therapy, anxiety, depression, identity exploration, attachment wounds, complex trauma, and psychedelic assisted psychotherapy. I also support clients navigating life transitions, grief, shame, self-worth, communication challenges, and patterns that keep them feeling stuck or disconnected from themselves and others.

My work draws from Emotionally Focused Therapy, the Gottman Method, Internal Family Systems, somatic awareness, humanistic and existential therapy, and trauma-informed care. I help clients slow down, listen inward, understand their patterns, and develop more compassionate and empowered ways of relating.

As a queer-affirming therapist, I am especially passionate about supporting LGBTQ+ clients and relationships. I strive to create a space where clients can bring their full selves—without judgment—and explore healing in a way that honors their identities, histories, relationships, spirituality, and lived experience.