Family therapy and counseling in Hawaii

I have over 30 years of clinical, counseling and administrative experience working with individuals and couples, addressing the unique issues related to their unique life experiences. I have extensive professional and personal experience with military families and veterans. I understand first-hand the struggles of grief and medical conditions that impact all aspects of life. I have supported chronically and terminally ill patients, individuals living with cancer or chronic medical diagnoses, as well as parents experiencing infertility, peripartum, and postpartum depression. Whether dealing with life transitions, parenting, depression, anxiety, or divorce, or simply seeking to express yourself and feel more confident, I am here to walk with you, provide insights, and support you toward lasting change.

I find my most fulfilling times are assisting others in seeing how they are growing and impacting others around them. I am known for being a calm and grounding presence in sessions.

Are you feeling anxious, stressed, or just need someone to talk to? You've come to the right place. Throughout our lifetime, we are faced with many challenges, barriers, and successes that can all have their own level of overwhelmingness and joy. Whatever you are going through, let's work through it together.

If you've been holding a lot for a long time, therapy can be a place where you finally exhale. I work with women and teens who are feeling overwhelmed, stuck, anxious, or simply not like themselves. Whether you're navigating stress, relationship struggles, life transitions, or that constant sense of emotional overload, our work together can help you feel more grounded, supported, and clear about what comes next. Clients often describe me as compassionate, calming, and easy to talk to.

Starting therapy can feel vulnerable, and finding the right therapist matters. My goal is to create a safe and supportive space where you feel heard, respected, and understood.

Bruised Not Broken Therapy was born out of the lack of Afrocentric based psychotherapy that allowed people of color to embrace their journey of life through the context of color. HIV, substance abuse, mental health and the denial of the experience of being a person of color continues to plague communities of color, as we still have yet to talk about these experiences.

Life's challenges—whether anxiety, trauma, relationship struggles, or questions of meaning and identity—can feel overwhelming, but you don't have to navigate them alone.

Whether you're facing a specific challenge or seeking deeper personal understanding, I'm here to walk alongside you with warmth, respect, compassion honesty and hope.

You deserve support that honors your whole self—your story, your values, and your potential. Ready to take the first step? I invite you to reach out and begin your journey toward greater well-being and authenticity.

As a licensed counselor with a PhD in Counseling and Counselor Supervision, I bring both over 25 years’ experience, expertise and genuine compassion to my work with adults, couples, families, and older adults.

I have published and presented locally, regionally, nationally and internationally on various counseling areas and since I also teach I am current on research in the field of mental health counseling.

I specialize in supporting individuals through anxiety, depression, trauma, adjustment disorders, relationship concerns, existential questions, and the unique experiences of LGBTQ+ individuals and those exploring alternative lifestyles of any Kind.

Dr. Joe McSpillman

I am a board-certified Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner and a graduate of Frontier Nursing University, with over 11 years of nursing experience and one year of advanced clinical training across outpatient psychiatry, crisis stabilization, inpatient detoxification, skilled nursing facilities, and telehealth. I provide evidence-based psychiatric evaluation, medication management, and psychotherapy for children, adolescents, and adults with ADHD, anxiety, depression, bipolar and mood disorders, trauma-related conditions, substance use disorders, and psychotic disorders, including complex and co-occurring presentations. My clinical background includes crisis intervention, suicide risk assessment, stabilization, and long-term outpatient care focused on functional improvement and sustained recovery.

I have worked in the mental health field for over 15 years and have been a licensed mental health counselor and Doctor of Clinical Psychology for 12 years. Additionally, I have collaborated with clients of all ages, cultures, Nationalities and from all social classes dealing with a wide range of issues. My experience is vast as I have worked with the following: neuro-psychiatric, suicidal ideation/attempts, LGBTQIA, PTSD, anger management, grief/loss, trauma, abuse, relationship issues, school counseling, juvenile justice, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, depression, personality disorders, domestic violence, crisis intervention, codependency, and group/family/individual therapy.